# They said to them

"Jacob's sons said to Shechem and Hamor"

# We cannot do this thing, to give our sister

"We cannot agree to give Dinah in marriage"

# for that would be a disgrace to us

"for that would cause us shame." Here "us" refers to Jacob's sons and all the people of Israel. (See: [[rc://en/ta/man/translate/figs-exclusive]])

# give our daughters to you ... take your daughters to ourselves

This means they will allow a person from Jacob's family to marry a person who lives in Hamor's land.